When I was young, one of my favorite grown-ups said, "I don't know who I am today! I just feel like there's something wrong with me!"
 

That awful feeling "I don't know who I am"--seems to put us in quicksand

Last semester a really high-achieving student spent an hour on the phone with me telling me his imposter syndrome story.

He was really kind of freaking out.

He felt caught between his actual desire to look successful at any cost and his deeper, wiser realization that he needed to BE authentically who he is. 

Truth 1:  Who am I?   (This question that comes in different flavors)

This question comes in different flavors according to the temperament you are born with.  This temperament develops into a complex personality-identity. 

My student’s version of the question was something like this:  I am faking it all the time. 

My favorite grown-up's version was this:  I just feel like there is something wrong with me.

My own version came during a very odd moment when I was getting a massage, and I watched a thought run through my head, insisting:   Body?  I don't have a body.

These raw moments show us the cracks in our personality.

Truth 2:  These "cracks" in our personality reveal unfelt emotions 

And unfelt emotions  like unpaid credit card debt.  Hard to "pay" now--but exponentially harder to pay later, after the "interest" has accrued.

When I was a child, I tossed my new green purse under the benches at a skating rink and ran off to skate!  When I returned, panting hot and cold, I discovered with horror that  someone had stolen it. I felt so guilty and stupid—and was covering up my actual outrage.  My grandmother had given me that purse!  My parents had given me some money to put in that purse!  I had betrayed both.

The emotional vortex I got sucked into revealed a personality that

• that had permeable boundaries
• that didn't ever want to be disconnected
• that benefited from learning not to choose between these two.  

Truth 3:  It helps to know your personality's blind spots!

I had no idea how my optimistic mindset had already married my "boundary issues" to create havoc in my life, even as a child!

But I do now.  And I  want you to know your own personality's blindspots, too!

I have done my calendaring magic to open up some time for you in my fall-semester-packed calendar to enjoy a Personality Intelligence Accelerator—where you will learn

• your personality's 3 hidden blind spots
• the one thing you can do to see right through them and gain control of your life.

You are in my heart!

Lynnea